Why would someone date a girl who is completely not his type only to not call her again?

Mu 22 yr old daughter who met this guy who they happen to have a mutual friend- they dated twice- he evidently was some big football college star- not impressive to my daughter, she never dated jocks. After two dates, which she thought went well- he never called and told their mutual friend that MY daughter was a *****-- she is extremely insecure about dating again, I assume he wanted her to drool all over him and that is NOT her style. She is kind, and being a good friend is #1 in her book and she has a strict set of standards- if she seems bitchy - it can only be perceived because someone is taunting her and cant take no for an answer. She is afraid to date again-- what can I do to help her get over this?

Why would someone date a girl who is completely not his type only to not call her again?
I'm 23 and single I date here and therem, but I too hav high standards. I am very vocal about my opinion and don't let people walk all over me. The thing I find least attractive is a guy who knows and acts like he knows he is good looking. I will usually throw that in his face (to his surprise and degrading). What I would say to your daughter is never settle. Get out there and get a feel for guys.....or you will never know you might miss him. Don't take offense to their idiocy. They can't help but be stupid and not know a good thing when he sees it. I'm sure she will have no problem going out on another date....





I have a rule always go on a second date because everyone is on their best behavior on the first one. I don't want anyone to think I am stuck up....but I don't ever give up the control.....if she knows she is in control she can't get hurt!
Reply:it happens...and if she decides to date again,,,,,it will happen again. it's life.. and dealing with different personalities. my advice is to tell your daughter to grow thicker skin and not wear her heart in her shoulders because people are cold...life can be ignorant and you have to know how to deal.
Reply:that has happened to me also,some guys are jerks,but I try not to judge someone on past experiences,epically if im jugding on race,sex or career...w/e it may be,tell her that she will find someone but it will be time,im 19 and shes 22,we both have PLENTY of time! good luck to her and you,and happy holidays!
Reply:Mom, it sounds as if its not your daughter that needs to get over it... but maybe you need to get over it.





Your daughter will be just fine. She'll date again. She's 22 years old and as just began the rocky road and ups and downs of dating. She doesn't need her mother coddling her... and fixing her a warm cup of cocoa to make her feel better after every bad date.





It sounds as if you are the one that's messed up about the guy not calling her anymore. I mean... you said he was a big jock and all. And you know, you are probably right... he probably realized that your daughter had her "strict standards" and moved on to someone that had less standards.





But trust me, guys always want the good girls. (Especially the jocks although they will never admit) If he really liked her... he'll be back. Trust me on this one!! Maybe sometime will roll by before he gets a hold of her again... but he went out on two dates with her.. obviously he found some good qualities in her to take her out a second time.





If he doesn't come around again... no biggie.. at least your daughter stood by her standards.





And regarding your daughter being insecure about dating... why? She will only be as insecure as she allows herself to be insecure.
Reply:Its hard to say, she might have really acted like a b.tch but since she is your daughter you cant see it.





Then again maybe not. If her standards also include her being nice and not a prude then i say she will get over it and move on.
Reply:Your daughter sounds mighty immature, okay so the guy didn't call after two dates, and the only proof she has as to what he said about her was what she was told by the "mutual" friend, purely hearsay at best. A mature person would ignore the comment and go on about her life and not give the fact that he didn't call again after two dates a second thought. There is so much more to life than waiting around for a guy to call.
Reply:Just tell her not every guy is going to do that. Is it really fair to assume that all guys are going to do that? Because a really nice guy might come along, and just fall in love with your doughter, but then he might not get anywhere because she is scared that things might not go as planned again. There is so many people in the world, there is defiantely the right guy for her out there some where. Finding that someone is a exciting adventure... you learn about yourself, you learn about people, you learn about life. And most importantly.. you can look back and just laugh at some of the things you experienced on the way! Going out and exploring and going on dates is a very fun thing to do! I hope these words help!