Calling after a date?? Help!?

So I was recently on my first date in over eight years, having been recently divorced. I think my date had a good time, there was steady converation, a few laughs, and no real discomfort outside the norm for a first date. I dropped her off shortly after dinner and on the way we each talked about things we like to do and she suggested we do some of them in the future. When I dropped her off she told me that except for a little cleaning she was going to be around the next day and the date ended with a hug. I waited until the next evening (last night) to call but she couldn't talk long, she said she would call back in a little bit. Now 24hrs later I have not heard anything. Am I being a little to critical, should I wait it out? The same thing happened once already, her friend suggested I call a second time and that's actually what got me the date. I don't want to keep doing this and hassle her though. What would be the most appropriate follow up? Doesit she sound interested?

Calling after a date?? Help!?
Tough call on this one. On the one hand, you don't want to sound desperate. On the other hand, she might be the "traditional" type (by your own history). I say no guts, no glory. Call one more time. If you get the machine, leave a message (something a bit witty is good). Make sure you weave in that you won't call again as your reputation as a non-stalker is unblemeshed. If she picks up, listen to her tone and whether she is chatty. If she wants to get off or is busy... that's a sign to move on. Leave the ball in her court at that time. Something like. Well if you want to go out again, give me a call knowing that 1) she doesn't and 2) she won't. If she is chatty, then after a while let her know you are interested but also wondering why she didn't return your call. Good Luck!
Reply:She's either not interested, or she's the type that you can basically expect to have a hard time getting in touch with her.


Give it a couple days before calling her again. You don't want to come across like you'll jump through hoops for a girl you just met. That seems too desperate, and honestly, you deserve better. If you went on this great date, and the girl was into you, too, she would have SAID so when you called, and will be a little more approachable. UNLESS she's trying to come across as slightly hard to get.


I still say give it two more days before calling her. Let's see, it's Monday, right? Give her a call on Wednesday, and see if she's available sometime this weekend. Unless it's for something legitimate, like working, if she turns you down, you have your answer, no matter how nice she's trying to let you down.


Best of all... If no date by Wednesday, you've got Thursday and Friday to get a date for Saturday night! :D


P.S. Relax. If you're a good guy, things will turn around for you, WITHOUT your having to jump through hoops for girls!
Reply:I would wait until tomorrow afternoon to call her. It could just be that she got tied up with whatever she was busy with.
Reply:call her tommorow evening
Reply:I think you did the right thing to wait before getting back in to the dating routine. However, if you liked her enough to ask her out, and the date went well, why didn't you.... at the end of the first date, why didn't you ask her for another date before saying good night? That would have been the ideal time to ask for the second date... just before you gave a the good night hug.
Reply:You can wait, for tomorrow, or perhaps she did not like the date.. I hope tomorrow is better.. Maybe she is busy, or she had a last minute emergency... I wish you well. Have a good evening..... Ciao*