Back to dating after divorce. Date tonight..Advice???

Man... I never wanted to be out there again! Back to the dating world. I am a 36 y/o female. 3 little ones at home. Casual date tonight with a recently widowed male, 42, 3 kids at home too. Any advice? VERY nervous. This is a blind date. Have talked by phone some for a few weeks. I am no longer 20 yrs old or a size 8...pretty nervous! Advice/encouragement , please!!!!!! Thanks, everyone!

Back to dating after divorce. Date tonight..Advice???
just hold your shoulders up right and hold your head high... you have a lot to be proud of your a single mom of 3 little ones and no matter what they look up to you!! So, have a good time relax and don't stress out too much just enjoy the company.. i am sure he just might too.. have fun and good luck
Reply:Smile, always be polite %26amp; courtious but


don't overdo it.


Be yourself. If something doesn't strike


you as being funny, don't laugh but at


least smile, you don't need to come


across as being a *****. If its funny,


then laugh!


As it sounds you 2 have already talked with some success.





Just be your everyday self, like you


were on the phone with him.





Be confident, witty, happy, willing to


help out, easy going %26amp; positive like you


were on the phone with him.





Don't be nervous, but thats a given. At


least keep your nervousness inside you.


Try not to show it, but if it makes an


appearance, just simly say to your date


that being in the presence of him brings


it out in you, but in a good way!





As for some advice about not being 20


anymore.


You are smarter %26amp; wiser.


You know what life is like.


You know how this world works %26amp; you see


the benefits %26amp; joy %26amp; tough times with


raising kids.


You know your boundaries %26amp; limits.


You know what you want out of life.


You know that laundry doesn't magically


appear folded in your drawers.


You know your goals %26amp; achievements.


Basically,


You know your sh_t!





This is your night to be queen, a nice


fairy tale type queen.





Have fun %26amp; enjoy every moment of it.


At some point later in life your going to


look back at this experience %26amp; marvel in


it!


Just have fun!!!!


Nicole
Reply:Go with the flow....seriously, just be yourself, be confident and all will be well. I have been dating for twelve years since my divorce and its to the point now I sometimes think...lets just go to bed, see if we are compatible...and forget the dinner (lmao...joking of course...)
Reply:I'm sure there a lot of us that'd like to advise you on this. I think the most important thing to keep in mind is "you have to be yourself". Just stay true to who you are.





Its only natural for you to feel a bit nervous. One thing that you are getting back into the dating scene after a while. Another thing is you haven't met this person yet. So, don't be too hard on yourself if you a feel a few butterflies in your stomach.





One last thing. Don't go into it with too many expectations. Expect this person to be decent and a normal person. The lesser expectations you have, the lesser will your disappointment be if it didn't turn out the way you wanted it.





Have fun.
Reply:Just be yourself. I know it sounds cliche but it works. Good luck