Date her or no???

My ex girlfriend just broke up with a guy. She was in the relationship for almost a year. She knows I like her still and she wants to date me now, but I feel its to soon to date her. I told her I don’t want to be a rebound and she tells me that she would never do that to me. As much as I want to date her I don’t feel she is ready to deal with another relationship. I want our relationship to last so I want to wait, but I know she doesn’t want to. I’m afraid that if I do wait she’ll grow tired of waiting and not give me another chance. I have waited almost three years for another chance with her… what should I do???

Date her or no???
Give her a chance to prove you are not her rebound guy. take things very very slow.
Reply:Wait, a little bit. Don't wait long enough for her to move on and not want to be with you anymore. But since she just broke up with another guy, she will need time to fully get over him. She may say that she is over him, but come on...it was almost a year. Give it time and then try and date her and see how it works out.
Reply:Why wait?? You may die tomorrow, or maybe she will. You have to live for today. When I met my husband, he had only been split up from his ex for about 2 weeks. She had only just moved out the week before. That was almost 2 years ago. Give it a shot. What do you have to lose?
Reply:date her because she devers anthother chance.
Reply:NO
Reply:i was the re-bound girl once,


but everyone deserves a second chance..


give it a try. =]
Reply:i think that you should wait, you dont want to rush her into another relationship if she isnt ready for it. start talking to her so she knows that you still like her, and maybe go on a date when you feel she is ready because when i just breakup with someone, i dont like to rush into another relationship, wait maybe a month.





hope this helps.


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Reply:I would still wait. No matter what she tells you, you will more then likely be the rebound. Girls don't like to be alone. And here you are willing to keep her from being that way. What girl wouldn't take the opportunity. Right? I think you should be there for her definitely, but you should not get into a relationship with her, until you feel she is ready. Besides, if she really wants to be with you, and wouldn't hurt you, or put you through the pain, then she will understand, and work with you.
Reply:If you both want each other then what's the problem? Just date her. If it's meant to be, it will regardless of how soon after her last relationship.
Reply:I think you should really sit down and have a conversation with her about this. Maybe there is something you don't know about the relationship. Maybe she was done with him for a long time and they finally decided it wasn't worth continuing?
Reply:I'd say that all people need a break after a long relationship to get the person you were with out of your system. If you feel it's right, go for it, but take it slow. Let her know that it's for her sake of just getting out of a relationship. Great relationships are built from even better friendships, so she should respect your honesty.
Reply:give her a chance, before she does find someone else and you have to wait another year. Just make sure you tell her your true feelings. So she doesn't hurt you. Good luck
Reply:Lemme tell you something. I was in the same predicament, but the other way around. I moved to Vegas from NC about a year and a half ago. I left my boyfriend of 3 years... He had issues to deal with, like going to prison. Sounds bad, but it really wasn't. So while I was in Vegas, I found a guy whom I didn't really like at the time... But he kinda grew on me. So I gave him a chance. Things didn't work out so well. He was more like the girl than I was. I hate that. So I told him to leave. A couple days later, outta the blue, my ex from NC called me and said that he missed me, blah blah blah, I wont bore you with details. Needless to say, he came out to visit me %26amp; we both decided to come back to NC %26amp; start fresh. Things are way rough right now, but we are stickin thru it.





So I say, if you love her. Go for it.





Like they all say- It's better to have love %26amp; lost, then to have never loved at all.
Reply:it would be easier to tell you if i knew y u broke up but any ways...when people break up its usally because they like somebody else or the guy or girls cheats if you broke up with her and she dated someone else you should ask her out agen because obviously she moved on n now she wants you back ..but if she broke up with you then i think you should forget about her because if you think about it she left yyou and went with someone else obviously she loved him so how about if the same thing happens with u and while she dating you they talk and she breaks up with you to date her x boyfriend..i think you should talk to her about her relationship with her x and tell her y she wants you back if she lasted so long with her x and clearly she loved him ?ask her why they broke up and why your diffrent from this other guy :)
Reply:I'm gonna disagree with the majority opinion here, and tell you this: go ahead and date her, and see what happens. It's not your place to assume that she's unable to have a healthy relationship with you... you may be sabotaging the possibility of a relationship based on a wrong assumption. And maybe, you're not giving her enough credit for being able to figure out what she wants.





Maybe it won't work out; maybe it will. If it doesn't, it's probably because you weren't meant to be together to begin with. I don't think waiting until later will change that.
Reply:Follow your instinct. I think you know the answer, you just don't like it. Sounds like she is using you as the "go to" guy when she is between relationships, I hope I'm wrong.





You certainly have reason to be cautious, why did she break up before. How well did you get along when you were together? What has changed that will make your relationship better? A few things to think about..





Sometimes we want to be with someone that really isn't good for us, end result is nobody is happy. You can't expect a good relationship if there is no trust. Long term relationships have alot to do with friendship, common interests, common values and not just sex.





Bottom line, I'd put ask her some of these questions. Why does she want to get back together? Why does she think it "will work" this time? Why is she breaking up with her boyfriend? What does YOUR GUT tell you?


Good luck, I bet there is a better deserving girl out there for you.
Reply:Take it slow and be careful.