Will i get a second date?

i went on a date with an ex-coworker.......we kissed three times throughout the night and we hit it off pretty well. im really interested in a second date with him but i dont want to come off as needy. i sent him a text the night after thanking him for a good time (i am starting to question if that was a good move). he does reply, however, saying we should do it again, but doesnt specify a date. i know posting this question on the internet alone is a sure sign of desperation but please cut me some slack and give me an honest answer........ guys, if you intended on going to a second date with a girl, wouldnt you specify a date? also, would it put you off if a girl took the initiative and texted you the night after a first date to tell you she had a good time? thank you!

Will i get a second date?
The logical, kind, adult thing for a man to do is of course to be clear as a bell about future plans. But sadly that's not the "hard to get" game that society teaches both men and women in advice columns, girlie magazines, discussions with friends, etc. It's gamesmanship designed to make the other person more desperate for them (and apparently it's working rather well on you -- j/k).





So yeah, he's just following the "rule" of waiting up to a week before contacting you again. Trying to get inside your head, to get you to think about him. That's what that tactic does, to both men and women.





(Frankly, when younger I used to be the sort you ask for: the kind who would be all planned out and punctual and clear. Well, females apparently lost interest in that predictable approach, I can tell you! ... Today, I just think that it's best if the two people are real, and not playing games. I like naturalism. Just being one's self, no games, no flirting, no strategizing. Not necessarily all planned out, but going with the flow and not trying to trick the other. It's best.)





Anyhow, I don't think you blew it with the short text message. Just hold off on any more. Remember that he's strategizing. Plus, any more messages and he'll smell desperation.





Or, maybe I'm wrong, and he's just really, really busy. This is quite possible in today's fast-paced world.





Either way, just give it some space and do some other things for the next week. Try not to think about it much and fill up your schedule with other things. (Might even go on a first date with another fellow and create more opportunities and choices for yourself! ;) Who's holding you back?)
Reply:I would be flattered if you texted a thank you. You need to wait and see. He has to be aggresive to catch a girl otherwise you may not respect him. You don't mention common interests. What is there about him that is so interesting you want to see him again?
Reply:Most men would you give a specific day and time for a second or third date. Are you sure he is interested in you?


If so, why do you think he is? Dating does not mean he likes you. Okay?
Reply:Idiots follow the rules .


Since he is one of em he follows it too .


(3day rule)