Tuesday, August 17, 2010

I have a date tomorrow, need advice from girls or guys that know a lot about girls?

I have been broken up with my ex fiance for 8 months now and am finally ready to date again, I have'nt been on a date since I started dating my ex 3 years ago, I'm a little rusty and some advice on first date etiquette would be greatly appreciated, girls I would really love to hear from you and see what you think or what you would like from a guy on a first date, and all you ''players'' out there your advice is welcome as well, thanks to anyone that leaves an answer

I have a date tomorrow, need advice from girls or guys that know a lot about girls?
if you want to make a big hit with her-----make HER the center of your attention. Don't be looking around checking out other girls. take a shower----wear clean and neat clothes------brush your teeth
Reply:Well, I'm certainly no "player", but I would like to think that I know the female psyche well enough. I would think that she wants a guy who can be funny (not immature) but serious, interesting (DO NOT TALK ABOUT WORK), listens and talks back about her subject, be a conservative eater (if dining), SLIGHT physical contact is good. Like a hand on the lower arm or shoulder when laughing, hand on the middle of the small of her back when asking a question in a loud place (if standing), things like that.
Reply:Just be a gentleman, and very nice. I hate cocky guys who are jerks, so don't be like that. Have fun!
Reply:all i can say is be polite and be yourself hope you have a good time
Reply:The main purpose of the date is to get to know the person you are meeting. So, simply be natural and cordial with her. Take her for a drink in order to break the ice. Begin by conversing about herself, her present work and what is she intending to do in the near future. Be concern and supportive to her in your way of speaking but you must be sincere. Then spontaneously, surely she will also ask you about yourself, etc. From here you can build up your conversation naturally and perhaps plan for the next date. All the best!
Reply:I have been where you are %26amp; I know that it is a little unnerving. Just relax %26amp; be yourself. If you are not constantly stressing about minor details than all should go well. Keeping the conversation light and friendly is always a good choice. Talk about things that you are both interested in, find some common ground and go from there. Women like men who are self-confident not self-involved. GOOD LUCK
Reply:You dont want him to know that you havent been on an official date in awhile. Dont talk about ur ex or past relationship. be positive, flirty and sexy. He should like u for u
Reply:almost famous a-m-i-o? is right,,,,,,he is my dream man,,,, I could never catch a man with that much class





(just kidding)





on a first date, meet somewhere, and don't let them know where you live right away,, that way if they turn out to be like almost famous, you can be a little safe.


I think the best first dates, are not dinner or movies, they are walks, or just coffee,, no stress, and you guys can kind of talk
Reply:First thing first, don't forget your manners. Let her know chivalry is not dead. If you want a real relationship with this girl get to know her as a person, make her laugh, ask her about herself. Share a couple of intimate details with her, but don't give them all away you want a second date right.? Look her in the eyes and no matter who walks past you keep your attention on her.
Reply:keep the conversations light and funny.No complaining about bad experiences in life or about your ex.Don't place high expectations on this date.You might not like him.He has to show proper etiquette as well(act like a gentleman).End the date with a simple hug.
Reply:be youre self go to a movie and then go to all you can eat then go to a bar have a drink isten to the music and dance have a good time then look in to her eyes and give her a slow kiss
Reply:Be feminine, be nice, behave
Reply:By your question I think you are off to a good start, just the fact you are concerned about it Im sure everything will go well. Use your instincts but make sure you remember all of us are different and dont judge a new relationship because of your ex. Dont think you would do that though, you seem like a nice guy! Good luck and have fun!

cosmetic

Is this the most embarrassing first date?

1st Date On the Tonight show


We have all had bad dates but this takes the cake!





Jay Leno went into the audience to find the most embarrassing first date that a woman ever had. The winner described her worst first date experience.


There was absolutely no question as to why her tale took the prize!


She said it was midwinter... snowing and quite cold...and the guy had taken her skiing in the mountains outside Salt Lake City, Utah. It was a day trip (no overnight). They were strangers, after all, and truly had never met before.


The outing was fun but relatively uneventful until they were headed home late that afternoon. They were driving back down the mountain, when she gradually began to realize that she should not have had that extra latte.


They were about an hour away from anywhere with a rest room and in the middle of nowhere!


Her companion suggested she try to hold it, which she did for a while.


Unfortunately, because of the heavy snow and slow going, there came a point


where she told him that he had better stop and let her go beside the road, or it would be the front seat of his car. They stopped and she quickly crawled out beside the car, yanked her pants down and started.


In the deep snow she didn't have good footing, so she let her butt rest against the rear fender to steady herself. Her companion stood on the side of the car watching for traffic and indeed was a real gentleman and refrained from peeking. All she could think about was the relief she felt despite the rather embarrassing nature of the situation.


Upon finishing, however, she soon became aware of another sensation. As she bent to pull up her pants, the young lady discovered her buttocks were firmly glued against the car's fender. Thoughts of tongues frozen to poles immediately came to mind as she attempted to disengage her flesh from the icy metal. It was quickly apparent that she had a brand new problem due to the extreme cold. Horrified by her plight and yet aware of the humor of the moment, she answered her date's concerns about "what is taking so long" with


a reply that indeed, she was "freezing her butt off" and in need of some assistance!


He came around the car as she tried to cover herself with her sweater and then, as she looked imploringly into his eyes, he burst out laughing. She, too, got the giggles and when they finally managed to compose themselves, they assessed her dilemma. Obviously, as hysterical as the situation was, they also were faced with a real problem. Both agreed it would take something hot to free her chilly cheeks from the grip of the icy metal!


Thinking about what had gotten her into the predicament in the first place, both quickly realized that there was only one way to get her free. So, as she looked the other way, her first-time date proceeded to unzip his pants and pee her butt off the fender.


As the audience screamed in laughter, she took the Tonight Show prize hands down. Or perhaps that should be "pants down." And you thought your first date was embarrassing! !!


Jay Leno's comment... "This gives a whole new meaning to being pissed off!" Oh, and how did the first date turn out? He became her husband and was sitting next to her on the Leno show.

Is this the most embarrassing first date?
Yeah, I'd be embarassed, too!
Reply:LOL thanks for sharing, that was pretty funny. That would have been soooo embaressing!!
Reply:This is an eRumour, it as an entertaining tale but with no proof that it ever really happened.


The folks at the Tonight show say the story did not take place on their program.
Reply:That is awesome..poor girl. glad it worked out for her..
Reply:Fantastic!
Reply:Heard it before but it never gets old! You know it's true love when they pee on you!
Reply:very funny! thanks for the laugh!!
Reply:FAR OUT!!!!!!!!!! after that it was good to see they got married, i thought it was gonna end the opposite way!!,


have u had any exciting dating stories that happened to u?
Reply:omgawdddddddd !!!! wow,, that's funny !!!!!
Reply:no my friend had worse, it was a a gay person we set her up w/
Reply:haha OMG thats so gross but funny
Reply:Hilarious-I would just die! I'm so glad it worked out for them! I probably would not have dated again for awhile!!! You get a star!!
Reply:oh my god!never heared anything as embarressing as this!and they ended up together!what do they tell their kids abt how they got to know each other!oh my god!loool
Reply:I wonder if it would have turned out the same if she had had gas as well!!!!
Reply:That's funny!


Tips for a blind/double date?

Ok, so my two friends who are dating are matching me up with another friend of theirs, for a blind double date. Normally, I wouldn't be asking for advice, but I've never been on a double date or a blind date before. And, they showed me a picture of her (so technically it's not a blind date), and honestly she is one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen, so I really don't want to mess this up. Any tips for a blind date, double date, or both in one?

Tips for a blind/double date?
pretend it is a normal date.
Reply:Don't freak out.


Be yourself


Bring 1 flower for good measure (a whole bouquet is too much for a first meeting)
Reply:wear clean new underwear


How to turn a DATE into a FRIENDSHIP deal?

Earlier I opened a question asking if(or how) I should reject a date after carelessly accepting the offer, so now I took the advise from most people that I should still go to it because of personal integrity, whether I like it or not, I already said yes so I have to live by my words as long as I tell him I am not interested for going too far with him after the date.





here is the question, how to turn a DATE into a FRIENDSHIP deal? I want to make the enviroment as easy as possible and not giving him any chances to think that I am interested during the date and then at the end telling him that I am not interested at all.





Is the word 'date' (or going on a date) really makes people expect something out of it? can i turn it into a friendship kind of thing..

How to turn a DATE into a FRIENDSHIP deal?
go bowling....or like go bowling with her and other friends
Reply:Invite some friends and turn it into a group date. You'll both feel less pressured to focus on each other and it won't be so romantic or date-like. Or move the "date" to an earlier time that day. For example, if it was at 7pm, change it to 4pm so it would be more casual. Good luck.
Reply:make it an afternoon date nothing after 3pm


Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Screwed up first date with a good friend, What next?

I am a hs senior, and have limited experience (1 other first date)





The story. This girl, and I have been flirting for the last 2-3 months. I was finally able to ask her out last tues





I know that she was interested (we both ditched our boosters dates, plus other events). However, when the date happened, i crashed and burned.


We went to get ice cream, and later see a film (apocalipto, yes i know). The date went well. She was fun, and the discussion was rich, laughter, etc. This was untill the movie. At the movie, I was probably a bit annoying and went for a kiss when i shouldn't have. The kiss was agressive, and bad. The date ended, and when i drove her home, she hugged me and smiled.


For the next few days, she dodged me untill finally i forced the topic. "It was too fast, and she said" and needs time to think.





A week later, it is still awkward, but we have 3 clases together.


I am tempted to force the topic and either get a 2nd try or a release for other opportunties.





Should I?

Screwed up first date with a good friend, What next?
Maybe you could start with, "look I screwed up, I'm really sorry. I miss having you as a friend, can we be friends again?"
Reply:Brush yourself off and try again.





Only proceed if her smiles seem sincere. You can only fix the repercussions of a bad kiss with a really good one.
Reply:You are in a common situation, one you will know again in 10 or 20 years, so calm down. One day you will have the same story around an office. Take it easy for a while. The Holidays offer many creative opportunities to get together socially. Accept her words, she felt uncomfortable. Show her you can lay low but want to be near her.





Lastly, you said you want a 2nd try or "a release." Your story does not suggest you need a release. You are still friends so just go on with your life including dating anyone you want. High school "friendships" tend to end when you leave for college anyway. You will want to be free at college. You may find she starts text messaging you at college, so the opportunity may still be there in a couple years.
Reply:God, my friend, did SHE complain about you kissing her?? NO!!!


YOU thought you crashed and burnt because yuou went right for the kiss... actually she HUGGED YOU when you drove her home.


she didn't enjoy the kiss itself (if you're saying it was bad). but she probably likes the Idea that you want to kiss her. God, you wasted too much time... set up the next date.. make it casual.. (CLOSE TO YOUR PLACE). discuss a few things with her that relate to something you have at your house and offer her to go there and check it out. be casual. (you're giving her a chance. not asking for a chance). she WILL go for it.


during the date... do NOT forget to create sexual tension.


tell her about your friend who met a complete stranger the other night, and things went too steamy that they ended up in bed and now she's his girlfriend (that friend is imaginary of course).


you're a man and you dsire her.. because she's hot... Hello???


SHE KNOWS THAT. don't be sorry about it.. go for it.!!!!
Reply:If it was me, I'd write out the word "sorry" about 5 hundred times on a piece of paper along with a hand drawn picture of a stick man giving a terrible big kiss to an alarmed stick girl and give it to her. If she's a "band geek" type, she'll see the humour in it and likely lighten up a bit.

dds

Due date help!!!?

When my sister originally went to the doctor they gave her a due date of March 27, 2008, but when she went to have her u/s done last Monday the estimated due date on the u/s after they measured the date was March 16, 2008. Which date is correct????????? Thanks to everyone in advance.

Due date help!!!?
Technically they are both right , there is no exact science as to when a baby is to be born , that is why there is always a two week window along with the due date two before or two after , the sono just dates according to size at this point and she could just be having a big baby and her due date is 3/27/08 or sometime between the ten day diff.
Reply:doc's and ultrasound just give an estimate of which is the due date, but the baby will probably be due somewhere in that area. the baby always come when they are ready
Reply:the due date given by the blood tests (the earliest tests) for the most part is more reliable but they are so close together i would say she will go any time in between. there is never a correct due date. it is always a guess. i hope that your sister get her bundle of joy sooner than later. i am in my last week and the wait is driving me nuts!
Reply:The ultrasound date. Until then it is just a guess based off your menstrual cycle.
Reply:the estimated due date normally goes of the ultra sound but its not for deffenant give or take 2 weeks i hope this helps
Reply:They did the same thing to me-they moved it a week earlier. And in the end, I was overdue from my original due date by 3 days!
Reply:usually the u/s in correct but it might change again mine changed twice already
Reply:The due date she was given after the ultrasound is the more accurate one.. They mesure the gestational sack size, and this gives them a more accurate date. The due date of march 27 was probably according to when her last period was... which isnt as accurate as the u/s.





good luck!
Reply:If the ultrasound is done early in the pregnancy, it's usually the ultrasound that is more accurate than the dates given, because early-on in pregnancy most normal healthy babies/fetuses grow at the same rate. It is later in pregnancy that babies will start to change/develop/gain weight at their own pace. But early-on, the things that doctors look for to guesstimate a date are usually about the same for everyone.





However, with that being said, it's not always true, and doctors can sometimes be wrong or the development of the baby might "throw-off" a guess. For example: Based on MY that I went by, I figured I would be due around May 26th. When I went for my first doctors appointment and got an ultrasound, she changed it to May 19th because she said he looked to be about a week older than what I had figured based on my dates. He ended up being born on the 27th, just a day off from what I had figured but 8 days off from what the doctor figured, so there's really no way to be ABSOLUTELY positive, dates and ultrasounds/blood levels all give just an estimate alone, it's all the items together that usually help be more accurate.
Reply:The reason the due date changed is the size of the baby. Either date could be correct or one in between. It could vary as could the size of the baby. The obstetrician usually wont change the due date officially unless its a two week difference from the original


First date went GREAT... now what?

I was asked to dinner last week and went out last night with this guy to a Mexican resturant. He was a gentleman and we hit it off great, he even asked if he could meet my family and MY family liked him. It was soooo hard not to kiss him, but I knew it was the first date and would leave somewhat of a bad impression. We both said we had fun and the date started at 6pm and didn't end until 10pm and the whole time we were having fun, laughing and learning about each other, now what though, I don't want to have every date be something that has to do with spending money.. Also, this was my first date in 2 years.. So I need help to make sure that I don't run him off.. what should I do?

First date went GREAT... now what?
This is all new %26amp; exciting to you right now. Just relax, things will fall into place. You don't always have to go out %26amp; spend money. Cook at home, pop popcorn %26amp; watch a movie. Go to a park or a zoo. As far as running him off, just don't crowd him, you know, like calling him a lot %26amp; asking a lot of questions that sound like you're being nosy.
Reply:Has he called back and ask for a second date? If so usually a gentlemen will say what would you like to do? If you don't want it to be about money, suggest he come over and watch a movie, when your done you can show him pictures of your family and friends. That is a great way to learn more about each other.
Reply:enjoy the second date
Reply:cool and i am proud that u r an american soldier





as for ur first date, just let it be, u said it was great what else can u ask for


take it slow and let it blossom


i understand the money issue then date should be a dinner and movie


then u can meet up and just relaz in a park or walk around





any thing else feel free to email peterfl999@yahoo.com
Reply:Just relax and things wil happen as they were meant to be.
Reply:Maybe go for a walk in a park or for a picnic. I always think a second date should be a day date!
Reply:go for a picnic! each of u might want to make sth for each other to snack on... and sit by the beach n juz spend the entire day talking, tanning under the sun and playing in the water... u don't haf to spend much money and get to spend the whole day frolicking in the beach :) it will bring u guys a step closer to each other as well......... but all this when he asks u for a second date first !
Reply:go to a park


or a beach


take a stroll with him


long romantic walks
Reply:Invite him over to your place for a casual dinner. Get a bottle of wine and a couple of movies.
Reply:dont worry so much about it, take things slow and things will naturally progress