I have my first date tomorrow with a guy that i really like, and i'm freaking out because i haven't dated in over a year. We're going out for coffee :) I get v. nervous around him, and need advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Especially on how to achieve that effortless casual touch that some people can do (brushing hands, shoulder patting, knees touching whatever!!!) because i'm fairly awkward generally. Any advice would be welcomed!!!!! Please help the social retard!!!!!
(FYI - i'm 25 but haven't dated since i got out of a long term relationship last year, so i think i've forgotten how to date!)
Aaaaahhhh!! First date nerves!!?
i wouldnt drink coffee then u mite get even worse..id say stick to juice..just relax and act like its an old friend..dont freak him out by freakin yourself out..its ok..relax..its a chill date..trust me once u settle down u will feel comfortable and before u know it u will be waiting for your next date
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Date problems!?
ok ive dated before......like alot
but for sum reason when guys ask me out find a reason not to go cause im like scared....i mean what r supposed to talk about on a first date anyway....first dates are always so awkard
Date problems!?
First are the worst.
Basically a first date is like when the police pull you over and ask for your driver's license. They scan your plates and your ID and see if there are any warrants out for your arrest.
Same thing on a first date. You're just trying to figure out whether the other person isn't some psycho. At the same time you're trying to convince them that you're not a complete weirdo.
On a first date, you're not really on a date anyways. It's as if you've both sent representatives out to meet eachother.
So don't worry. Just go out there and see if your represenetatives agree for a future business meeting.
The worse thing that can happen is that they can say a bunch of mean sh*t about you to everyone you know.
It's worth the risk, because even if that happens, anyone who prejudges you based on what someone else says, they're not worth knowing.
And because the best thing that can happen is you can have a good time, maybe even fall in love.
Reply:first dates are to find compatibility. like interest.
the present, the future, etc...
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but for sum reason when guys ask me out find a reason not to go cause im like scared....i mean what r supposed to talk about on a first date anyway....first dates are always so awkard
Date problems!?
First are the worst.
Basically a first date is like when the police pull you over and ask for your driver's license. They scan your plates and your ID and see if there are any warrants out for your arrest.
Same thing on a first date. You're just trying to figure out whether the other person isn't some psycho. At the same time you're trying to convince them that you're not a complete weirdo.
On a first date, you're not really on a date anyways. It's as if you've both sent representatives out to meet eachother.
So don't worry. Just go out there and see if your represenetatives agree for a future business meeting.
The worse thing that can happen is that they can say a bunch of mean sh*t about you to everyone you know.
It's worth the risk, because even if that happens, anyone who prejudges you based on what someone else says, they're not worth knowing.
And because the best thing that can happen is you can have a good time, maybe even fall in love.
Reply:first dates are to find compatibility. like interest.
the present, the future, etc...
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I only date Models! Am I shallow?
I am self confessed modelizer. I only date beautiful models. Recently some of my friends said they are sick of meeting my models that have no personality. They suggested I date normal looking women that live so called normal lives! I scoffed at the idea. I really love those model things. Should I try to date a not so beautiful girl? Would it be wise to tell the average looking girl I only normally date models?
I only date Models! Am I shallow?
yes. i'd say you're real shallow. you have no connection with the girls you date other than you think they're attractive. personality is everything. go for a real woman. they're much more fun to be with and will make you happy. plus usually they're actually the more beautiful ones.
Reply:yea...a little i guess but see im the exact oposite like i find beauty in flaws and people always tell me im too good for the guys i date, (by the way i am a model) but i i guess everyone has they're own taste.
Reply:you are uncapable of knowing what beautiful is right now in your life Just to put into reallyity unless you are a rich man you will some day not be so beautiful. please don't take this the wrong way I am just trying to give you an anwser...!
Reply:Yes. I feel pity for you.
Reply:ok wow. this is why i would never date guys like you. i think your pretty shallow. i am normal and i dont say this but to you i can. i am beautiful. and i have very very pretty friends. my brother lives in calf. and does all the movie stuff and he has friends that are actors and has friends that are models and i have met all. i think you are thinking too much of your image. and what people think of you. do you rather be happy or live like this? cause if you think normal people are boring than were going to think your snobby. and thas not how the world works. and NO tell tell other girls that you only dated models are you crazy. you must really be stuck on yourself. and dont try to tell me diffrenent. i cant believe you think your BETTER than other girls. like me i love to go horsebackriding, i have done pageants and done cheerleading,dance, i love to hunt and camp and be wild and have fun. i rather do all that than be one of your boring models that you need so much. you have alot to learn and alot a head of ya. you need to come down to earth and stop thinking of the high life. cause trust me its nt that great like how you put it.
Reply:why the hell would you want a model!!!! you sure as hell are shallow. also, wuts with ur word choice? scoffed? third of all, "not so beautiful girl" wut the hell does that mean? are you saying that normal women arent appealing? get a life and come back to reality.
Reply:You bet you are mate - but you're also probably quite young. Be kind to your friends -when you mature a bit - you may need them.
Good Luck
Joe
Reply:Hate to be the one to tell you but Models are not that beautiful.
You can find a woman that Beautiful just walk down the street there every where just open you eyes.
Reply:well there are other girls out there. and if you are going through models they might just not be for you. you can find really pretty girls that have a personality and are not models. You just have to look. if you only date models you may never find the one.
Reply:Yes you are!
Theres beautiful girls out there with some brains, that arent models yah gotta find them!
I only date Models! Am I shallow?
yes. i'd say you're real shallow. you have no connection with the girls you date other than you think they're attractive. personality is everything. go for a real woman. they're much more fun to be with and will make you happy. plus usually they're actually the more beautiful ones.
Reply:yea...a little i guess but see im the exact oposite like i find beauty in flaws and people always tell me im too good for the guys i date, (by the way i am a model) but i i guess everyone has they're own taste.
Reply:you are uncapable of knowing what beautiful is right now in your life Just to put into reallyity unless you are a rich man you will some day not be so beautiful. please don't take this the wrong way I am just trying to give you an anwser...!
Reply:Yes. I feel pity for you.
Reply:ok wow. this is why i would never date guys like you. i think your pretty shallow. i am normal and i dont say this but to you i can. i am beautiful. and i have very very pretty friends. my brother lives in calf. and does all the movie stuff and he has friends that are actors and has friends that are models and i have met all. i think you are thinking too much of your image. and what people think of you. do you rather be happy or live like this? cause if you think normal people are boring than were going to think your snobby. and thas not how the world works. and NO tell tell other girls that you only dated models are you crazy. you must really be stuck on yourself. and dont try to tell me diffrenent. i cant believe you think your BETTER than other girls. like me i love to go horsebackriding, i have done pageants and done cheerleading,dance, i love to hunt and camp and be wild and have fun. i rather do all that than be one of your boring models that you need so much. you have alot to learn and alot a head of ya. you need to come down to earth and stop thinking of the high life. cause trust me its nt that great like how you put it.
Reply:why the hell would you want a model!!!! you sure as hell are shallow. also, wuts with ur word choice? scoffed? third of all, "not so beautiful girl" wut the hell does that mean? are you saying that normal women arent appealing? get a life and come back to reality.
Reply:You bet you are mate - but you're also probably quite young. Be kind to your friends -when you mature a bit - you may need them.
Good Luck
Joe
Reply:Hate to be the one to tell you but Models are not that beautiful.
You can find a woman that Beautiful just walk down the street there every where just open you eyes.
Reply:well there are other girls out there. and if you are going through models they might just not be for you. you can find really pretty girls that have a personality and are not models. You just have to look. if you only date models you may never find the one.
Reply:Yes you are!
Theres beautiful girls out there with some brains, that arent models yah gotta find them!
Need formula for excel date?
let say i enter todays date in a cell (A1). What formula can i use to make A2 show three years from now once A1 is entered. Remember i enter just one date and get 2 dates (todays date and 3 years later date)
Need formula for excel date?
See the EDATE function.
In this case, you want EDATE(TODAY(),36)
Reply:=DATE(YEAR(A2)+B2,MONTH(A2),DAY(A2))
Reply:Excel stores time/dates as a number of days from 1 jan 2001. To calculate a date in the future, just add the number of days until the date you want to calculate. I.E. cell a1 contains =TODAY(). To calculate 3 years from now, cell A2 would contain =A1 + (365 * 3)
Note that this is a simple version and won't account for leap years...
Need formula for excel date?
See the EDATE function.
In this case, you want EDATE(TODAY(),36)
Reply:=DATE(YEAR(A2)+B2,MONTH(A2),DAY(A2))
Reply:Excel stores time/dates as a number of days from 1 jan 2001. To calculate a date in the future, just add the number of days until the date you want to calculate. I.E. cell a1 contains =TODAY(). To calculate 3 years from now, cell A2 would contain =A1 + (365 * 3)
Note that this is a simple version and won't account for leap years...
A first Date Q, Please Answer Guys, and gals.?
I went on a date I thought was really good. We flirted a lot and had great conversation from the minute we saw eachother. We went to a cafe and then saw a movie at his place. He Is Shy!! When I left I gave him a hug (2 mississippi secs) , and then he hugged me really tight (3mississippi secs) and we said goodnight. I had already let go and he was still hugging me kind of deal. He told me to call if i got lost, of course I didn't. Anyways my friend asked how our date was. He said good and didn't expand anymore. The day after our date I msg'ed him on msn saying i had a good time-advice from my friend.... he was going out so we didn't talk long... he didn't even say bi. He hasn't talked to me since that convo on sat and now it is wed. Also whenever we chatted on msn bf the date i initiated the convo's because he is shhy and would tell my friend she never says hi. I did my part by telling him i had a good time. Should I wait to c if he tries to talk to me?
A first Date Q, Please Answer Guys, and gals.?
This guy was just testing the water. Move on. If this guy happens to call sometime and wants to go out that's up to you' If he doesn't don't sweat it. Go to the next one.
Reply:you should ignore him for a couple of days and if he really likes you he would get over the shyness and talk toyou.
Reply:Hit it on
Reply:Nothing ventured, nothing gained....go for it. he may need that little extra nudge from you...Good luck :D
Reply:No guts, no glory, what's to hurt be it?
Reply:You like him alot but the thing is, he is not reciprocating the way you expect or want him to. Stop expecting from him and stop making excuses for him (that he is shy). Move on, girl. But learn something about what happened. That some men may not be comfortable if they feel they are the prey and the women are the predator. That some men do have self-control, believe or not. Let him be. Let him deal with his own "problem". There are alot of fishes in the ocean. And without meaning to be a moralist, I would want to say that we, girls, doesn't have to flirt to get attention. We tend to attract the wrong guys that way. Get to know them first and know them well before even elevating ur relationship to the next level. Girls should attract the cream of the crop before choosing the most Mr Right.
Reply:give him time maybe he just need to get use to you so baby girl give him time
with love
lady T
Reply:Move on
Reply:i think you must wait ,if hes still interested in you ,he will surely contact you ,men dont like demanding or needy girls ,dont show him too much interest but if he contacts you ,be very nice as you are.
Reply:he seems like a nice guy !! move on !! but make sure tat he gets a lil more open with u !! because u dont want to b stuck with a guy hu has no back bone !!
i guess its just tat he is shy cos u hav met only once !
mayb if he got to noe u he may open up !
dont lose out on him !
tc bye
Reply:first time suspense
A first Date Q, Please Answer Guys, and gals.?
This guy was just testing the water. Move on. If this guy happens to call sometime and wants to go out that's up to you' If he doesn't don't sweat it. Go to the next one.
Reply:you should ignore him for a couple of days and if he really likes you he would get over the shyness and talk toyou.
Reply:Hit it on
Reply:Nothing ventured, nothing gained....go for it. he may need that little extra nudge from you...Good luck :D
Reply:No guts, no glory, what's to hurt be it?
Reply:You like him alot but the thing is, he is not reciprocating the way you expect or want him to. Stop expecting from him and stop making excuses for him (that he is shy). Move on, girl. But learn something about what happened. That some men may not be comfortable if they feel they are the prey and the women are the predator. That some men do have self-control, believe or not. Let him be. Let him deal with his own "problem". There are alot of fishes in the ocean. And without meaning to be a moralist, I would want to say that we, girls, doesn't have to flirt to get attention. We tend to attract the wrong guys that way. Get to know them first and know them well before even elevating ur relationship to the next level. Girls should attract the cream of the crop before choosing the most Mr Right.
Reply:give him time maybe he just need to get use to you so baby girl give him time
with love
lady T
Reply:Move on
Reply:i think you must wait ,if hes still interested in you ,he will surely contact you ,men dont like demanding or needy girls ,dont show him too much interest but if he contacts you ,be very nice as you are.
Reply:he seems like a nice guy !! move on !! but make sure tat he gets a lil more open with u !! because u dont want to b stuck with a guy hu has no back bone !!
i guess its just tat he is shy cos u hav met only once !
mayb if he got to noe u he may open up !
dont lose out on him !
tc bye
Reply:first time suspense
Date with a .....?
if you have got a date with as girl for the first time and you said that you'll take her out to the movies what do you think she may expect a her date to bring her ? or what is the right thing to give her on the frist date when going out that she'll really felel speacial and feel loved and cared
Date with a .....?
I wouldnt expect you to bring me anything.
As long as we would spend time together that would satisfiy me
But maybe near the end of the movie you could grab my hand :]
Reply:you do not need to bring her anything,,
honestly that might freak her out.
just offer to pay thats enough
Reply:Nothing, just be yourself and be considerate and caring of her feelings and what she likes and what she doesn't like. Pay for the tickets and be a gentleman and pay for the popcorn and drinks.
Reply:try to get second time
Reply:Bring her some flowers, or a teddy bear. Or maybe a CD made by her favorite artist.
Reply:hmmm 11 white roses and 1 red onevery elegant and sexy...she will like...
Reply:a single flower simple but shows you took time for her
Reply:well .. don\'t worry about it .. act natural and it will come to you
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Reply:dnt bring **** if she likes u she dnt need **** all u need to do iz pay 4 the movies...and make sure u do pay 4 da movie
Reply:Why does she need to feel "loved" on a first date? You don't know her well enough to love her...
You needn't bring her anything...98% of my first dates brought me no gift...it isn't necessary and may be a bit of overkill actually...wait until you know her and really know whether or not you like her...the date is enough (since traditionally you'll be picking up the tab for that)....
Reply:1st of all dnt go too far w/her at the movies....thats rude....for the first date u dnt have to get her ne thing but if u want u can give her like a teddy bear or something...nothin crazy expensive!
Reply:i think you should slow down a little bit, dont bring anything, dont make her feel overwhelmed, just go see the movie maybe get a bite to eat and have a good time
Reply:go to the movies and ask her what would you like to see and bring a flower to the door when you pick her up
Reply:I think you sould invite her to your apartment, if she says no then you haven't found the right women!
Reply:a flower but nothing more then that, you don't want her to get the impression that your desperate and yes that can happen on the first date...
Reply:u dont have to get her anything -maybe a flower if u want-and then offer to pay for the movies and get her some popcorn and a drink and have a really good time.. :D
Reply:it may seem old fashion to some but girls always love flowers no matter what.. :)
Reply:a yellow rose for friendship....not red (love) or white (marriage)
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Date with a .....?
I wouldnt expect you to bring me anything.
As long as we would spend time together that would satisfiy me
But maybe near the end of the movie you could grab my hand :]
Reply:you do not need to bring her anything,,
honestly that might freak her out.
just offer to pay thats enough
Reply:Nothing, just be yourself and be considerate and caring of her feelings and what she likes and what she doesn't like. Pay for the tickets and be a gentleman and pay for the popcorn and drinks.
Reply:try to get second time
Reply:Bring her some flowers, or a teddy bear. Or maybe a CD made by her favorite artist.
Reply:hmmm 11 white roses and 1 red onevery elegant and sexy...she will like...
Reply:a single flower simple but shows you took time for her
Reply:well .. don\'t worry about it .. act natural and it will come to you
======================================...
If you are single and have the time, please visit my site:
http://www.**************/go3.php
Reply:dnt bring **** if she likes u she dnt need **** all u need to do iz pay 4 the movies...and make sure u do pay 4 da movie
Reply:Why does she need to feel "loved" on a first date? You don't know her well enough to love her...
You needn't bring her anything...98% of my first dates brought me no gift...it isn't necessary and may be a bit of overkill actually...wait until you know her and really know whether or not you like her...the date is enough (since traditionally you'll be picking up the tab for that)....
Reply:1st of all dnt go too far w/her at the movies....thats rude....for the first date u dnt have to get her ne thing but if u want u can give her like a teddy bear or something...nothin crazy expensive!
Reply:i think you should slow down a little bit, dont bring anything, dont make her feel overwhelmed, just go see the movie maybe get a bite to eat and have a good time
Reply:go to the movies and ask her what would you like to see and bring a flower to the door when you pick her up
Reply:I think you sould invite her to your apartment, if she says no then you haven't found the right women!
Reply:a flower but nothing more then that, you don't want her to get the impression that your desperate and yes that can happen on the first date...
Reply:u dont have to get her anything -maybe a flower if u want-and then offer to pay for the movies and get her some popcorn and a drink and have a really good time.. :D
Reply:it may seem old fashion to some but girls always love flowers no matter what.. :)
Reply:a yellow rose for friendship....not red (love) or white (marriage)
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Should i date this boy?
I've been talking with him for about a week or so but known him for almost a year. He likes me alot, and i'm starting to think i like him too. He had been trying to get me to go on a date with him for months and i finally said yes the other night and we had a great time....problem is...his reputation...he's known for dating TONS of girls and being jerk =/ but whenever we're together, he seems greatttt. idk so many people have been telling me not to date him but idk. The only time i've seen him act jerkish was the other day when he was with his friend and me =[ i dont know what to do, he's such a gentleman when its just us but so different when theres other people. i dont want to regret it or have people think differently of me if i date him....cause as of now...i have a great reputation and am known as a "good girl". please helppp!!!!! i need opinions!!!!!
Should i date this boy?
You need to drop him like a hot potato! You are the next one in line on his conquest list. Sure, he will be nice to you because he wants something from you. You are his next challenge. And if you play along with it, you will be like the other girls who's hearts and reputations were scarred. He will tell you all the things you want to here to make you feel special when you are around him. But eventually he will grow tired of you and the jerkyness of his personality will come out. Don't be there to find out! Take it from all the other girls who said he turned out to be a jerk. I guarantee, that all of them were told the same things as you are being told at this time.. The evidence is right and front of you, so heed the warning and move on to greener pastures. He is a classic example of a "Player".There is a better and sweeter guy out there for you, you just have to pick the one for you.. Good luck!
... Billy Ray
Reply:hmmm...maybe u should...
he probably sees something special in u, thus his eccentric behaviour. its how he acts towards u thats most important, not saying that his other actions arent important tho...
Reply:Sometimes people, especially young people act out for all kinds of reasons. Most of the time when a person is known as the kind of person who dates a lot - they are hurting. I think you should get to know this guy for yourself and forget about what other people say. You judge him based on the person he shows you to be on the inside. Sometimes it takes one person to make a significant change in another's life. Maybe you are that person for him. Give him a chance. But the first sign you see of him not being respectful or flirting with other girls, give him the boot.
Reply:Every girl wants to be the girl that made the bad boy act right... but if he is a jerk to everyone else in the world he will be one to you eventually. It's unavoidable - it's his personality. You can't change that.
Chances are that he is being nicer to you than anyone else right now because he feels a lot of lust/other emotions... but don't let that fool you; once he feel more comfortable around you the inner jerk will come out and he will treat you as bad as anyone else.
If you are a good girl then you could get a better guy, you just need to have patience and find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Someone who is nicer probably likes you anyway, you just need to find them!
Reply:Let him know what you've heard and that you want to give him a chance, but if he does something you really don't like, then count it as a strike. After the third strike, he's out. Anything illegal (rape, theft, etc.), then count it as an automatic out (and call the police!)
Should i date this boy?
You need to drop him like a hot potato! You are the next one in line on his conquest list. Sure, he will be nice to you because he wants something from you. You are his next challenge. And if you play along with it, you will be like the other girls who's hearts and reputations were scarred. He will tell you all the things you want to here to make you feel special when you are around him. But eventually he will grow tired of you and the jerkyness of his personality will come out. Don't be there to find out! Take it from all the other girls who said he turned out to be a jerk. I guarantee, that all of them were told the same things as you are being told at this time.. The evidence is right and front of you, so heed the warning and move on to greener pastures. He is a classic example of a "Player".There is a better and sweeter guy out there for you, you just have to pick the one for you.. Good luck!
... Billy Ray
Reply:hmmm...maybe u should...
he probably sees something special in u, thus his eccentric behaviour. its how he acts towards u thats most important, not saying that his other actions arent important tho...
Reply:Sometimes people, especially young people act out for all kinds of reasons. Most of the time when a person is known as the kind of person who dates a lot - they are hurting. I think you should get to know this guy for yourself and forget about what other people say. You judge him based on the person he shows you to be on the inside. Sometimes it takes one person to make a significant change in another's life. Maybe you are that person for him. Give him a chance. But the first sign you see of him not being respectful or flirting with other girls, give him the boot.
Reply:Every girl wants to be the girl that made the bad boy act right... but if he is a jerk to everyone else in the world he will be one to you eventually. It's unavoidable - it's his personality. You can't change that.
Chances are that he is being nicer to you than anyone else right now because he feels a lot of lust/other emotions... but don't let that fool you; once he feel more comfortable around you the inner jerk will come out and he will treat you as bad as anyone else.
If you are a good girl then you could get a better guy, you just need to have patience and find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Someone who is nicer probably likes you anyway, you just need to find them!
Reply:Let him know what you've heard and that you want to give him a chance, but if he does something you really don't like, then count it as a strike. After the third strike, he's out. Anything illegal (rape, theft, etc.), then count it as an automatic out (and call the police!)
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