My gay son wants to date at 15?

my son just turned 15... he thought he was bi... and we discussed it.... now he says he is gay.... regardless.... he wants to date this guy from school.... we have had several conversations concerning him being bi or gay and i have told him that no matter what.... i will always love him and i accept him for who he is... but... at this tender age.. i can't allow him to "date" a guy.... now i find out that he asked a guy to "date" him after i told him not to do this...and they are "dating" .... i have learned this is not the first guy he has asked to "date"... if one guy says no... he immediatly asks another..... he says he doesn't like being single... he likes dating..............so...... need advice...... should he be allowed to date when i really believe he may be confused at this time in his life... and may look back on it and think.... what was i thinking..... i am trying to look out for him now and in the future.....anyone know of any sites that may help me....... thank you....

My gay son wants to date at 15?
A teenage boy ain't no tender thing -- you are his mother, yes?





As long as he is dating other high school boys and they go to public places, I would be fine with it. If it were my son, I ask to meet some of them...casually.





He is rapidly approaching the age (16-17) when you are not going to be able to control him at all if he wants you out of his life...so go slow. Encourage him to talk and to share; start trying to give your opinion only when he ASKS for it; put your foot down only when the situation is really dangerous -- pick your battles very carefully; and concentrate on helping him think like a grown up.
Reply:Well i think that you should go ahead and let him because of the fact that regardless he is gonna do it anyway. you standing in the way may hurt your mother son relationship. if you feel that he may be confused then you probably should just let him find out on his own, because this indeed can just be a phase. but be aware that it might not be and you might have to deal with this for the rest of your life! so be careful, do the right thing....he has to learn on his own.
Reply:it is pretty normal for fifteen year olds of any orientation to date, healthy even. talk to him about where he is going, and be there to support him through his heartbreaks etc. it will be much easier for you to just see that he is starting to grow up and discover who he is. do make sure to talk to him about sex and being safe, hopefully he isn't having sex yet but there's always that possibility and he needs to know how to protect himself as well as his partner.
Reply:Your son was born gay and wants your acceptance. He feels comfortable with dating guys because he feels you accept him and will love him no matter what. Alot guys find out their gay around that time and start to date guys. What you let your 15 year old straight son date a girl and do you want your son to be happy.
Reply:So what? The boy wants a partner. If you look at all the 15 year olds, they all have boyfriends/girlfriends. At 15, you know if you are gay or not. If you still don't accept/believe it, you get the bad mom award! Don't deprive him, let him date.





*Oh, and make sure you have the sex and protection talk too.
Reply:He's actually being a normal healthy kid... If he wanted to date a 50 year old I'd say you have some talking to do... but if he's dating in his own age range let it be... encourage him to bring his dates home so you can meet them... support him... if you don't believe me... he'll still date... it's just that you wont know anything about his life... and that's much worse....AND make sure he's educated about being safe if sex comes into the equation....
Reply:I dont feel there is an issue regarding his sexuality. If hes gay hes gay, no matter if you let him date now or not. Its natural for a kid to want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, everyone is doing it. If you dont then the youth feel obviously there is something wrong with them.
Reply:just let him date, but let him know that you're there for him. don't be overprotective or overbearing, just look out for him. hes probably suffering with the fact that hes gay. this world isn't all that accepting of that sort of thing. let him date, but watch out for him all the same. hope this helps.
Reply:All 15 years old date or want to date. Your son is no different. If anything I'd be very grateful that he's sharing this with you. In fact, that's fantastic and a testament to what a strong son you raised and what a wonderful mother you've been.
Reply:Yes, he may look back on it and think "what was I thinking?" If you don't let him, instead he may be asking "what if?" Let him experiment and explore his feelings, as long as he doesn't endanger himself or someone else.
Reply:It sounds like he's codependent. I would sit down, and talk to him about his codependency. If he wants to date someone talk to him about safe sex. With teens you can't stop this kind of thing since they're in school 8 hrs. a day.
Reply:Tell him to watch the Chris Crocker video "Codependency" on YouTube.... Codependency is not cute, it is not classy, and it is NOT Chris Crocker... Just have him watch the video... He'll love it!(and so will you!)
Reply:If your answer would be the same if he wanted to date a girl then stick with it --if you would allow him to date a girl at 15 then you are not being fair to him.
Reply:I say if he knows he is gay let him date.
Reply:Just let him do his own thing....nothing bad is going to happen....on your part just be supportive.
Reply:First of all it is so fantastic that you support him! Second regardless of his sexual preference would you let your child date at 15, I mean my parents wouldn't have let me. Lonely or not he needs to understand that he isn't mature enough for a serious relationship. He probably just wants someone around who understands him and has the same interests as he does. On the other hand if you don't explain to him why you think he should wait he will do what he wants behind your back. I'm sure he is very curious and wants the companionship. Good Luck and congratulations on being so open minded.

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