Why do people date?

I think it is a waste of time because mostly the guy will be using the girl for sex and he will dump her for another girl. There will be another ex after another ex. Before you know you have more than 10 ex. That means you slept with ten men. Then when the man that comes that want to marry you ask you about your past what you are going to say. I only dated two guys and slept with two. Even people who have real love still suffer from their partner past. When you are married? Your ex(s) is(are) still pursing you. Then you end up in a divorce because she/he cheated. Dating is fake just away for people to get sex and a long list of more ex.








I a 22 year old virgin never dated a guy because by choice. I am attractive and doing well. Busy with school. I am friends with some here and there but did not like them but no dating. I saving myself for marriage most of the time you don't even need to date a guy to know if he is marriage material.

Why do people date?
I am determined not to be played with love until I am out of college and have a steady job. (this includes "just going on a date")





So far so good
Reply:for them to know each other well whether they are ment to be or not.
Reply:well that's fantastic for you, but some people aren't that way.





It sounds like you're going to need to find a guy that feels the same way with no one in their past. Some people feel differently, some people see sex as "love making" not "marriage making" and chose to share it with each other. Not everyone that has sex has meaningless sex.





For as wise as your decisions sound, it's outweighed by how biased this is.





Some people cheat in a relationship because they have felt they didn't get to explore enough before they married.





I was hurt when i found out my partner's past, but i love him, and everything about him, and so i was able to move past that...





I love my boyfriend more than anything, i gave myself to him, and i will marry him. But you can't just go from knowing each other to married... you've just heard too many bad stories about horrible relationships.
Reply:Sounds like you have some past problems with guys or something. But doesn't dating = marriage most of the time?
Reply:they need someone next to them
Reply:(1)So they can get to know each other


(2)Friendly hint for how you feel in on and other


(3)To be a kind person(if married or has bf/gf





2 thumbs up for me!!
Reply:"most of the time" is the key. Dating the guy will show his real personality, then you can figure out if he is marriage material.
Reply:I understand. For some people, that dating lifestyle is what they want. They don't want a commitment. Most women though, want a relationship and are heartbroken when they break up. The sex was great while it lasted, but makes the breakup even harder because the woman thinks it meant they were in love but to the guy it usually just meant he satisfied his cravings.





However, you are painting everything with the negative brush. Not all people are just out for sex. Not all dates are for sex. Not all exes chase you for the rest of your life. Not all marriages end up in divorce. There are people out there who are like you and need to speak up and not be afraid to stick to your morals when they develop a crush on somebody. They can date and make their partner wait. I think you do need to date a guy to learn if he is marriage material. You don't need to have sex with him, but it would be good to spend time with him at various times, early, late, at meals, when drinking alcohol, around family, when stressed, and various times when he is comfortable with you or surprised so you can see past any fronts to learn if the real guy is always that polite or well-groomed. If you don't date him, then what are the alternatives, work with him for 2 years then get married? You can't skip that dating step. You can call it courting or just spending time with him but you need to do that learning from sharing his life experiences (funerals, Christmas, football games, job changes, etc.). Also, the work environment is non-romantic and I think it is unrealistic to go straight from talking to a guy at church or work for couple of years to marrying him without ever a chance for romance.
Reply:it's called living a life. plain and simple. what are you saying we should get rid of mating?
Reply:you do realize that we are just animals i know allot of religions want to make us higher but fact is we are animals biologically and we have sexual instincts just like all other animals does this mean we should go out and sleep with who ever we want , no of course not because we are also equipped with a brain that can see the risk of disease or unwanted pregnancy is not worth it to our survival ,,, but having more than one partner in your life time is fine and statistics show that people who have dated and experienced different people are less likely to cheat when they settle down this is because the urge to find the best mate is no longer there
Reply:yes, you do need to date a guy to know if he is marriage material.


Plus, it's good to date to know that what kind of guy do you like...ideal and reality is different.