Cancel a date?

I'll summarize a long story. I've gone on a few dates with a guy I go to school with, and I've been somewhat interested up until last night. We randomly got drinks with some of my close friends and then went back to his place, and he went in for the first kiss. I dodged because things had gone so poorly with my friends earlier that night - they didn't care for him at all. I trust my friends' judgement (and my own!) and no longer want to see him. My problem lies in the fact that I have a date with him tonight that was scheduled a week ago, and I no longer want to go. I know that he really likes me, and I would like to get out of this situation before it becomes even more difficult. What is the best plan of action? Brute honesty or a fake cancellation followed by a clear lack of interest when I see him in class? I have never broken a date before, but leading him on is the last thing I want to do - should I go on the date tonight or should I not?

Cancel a date?
What you have to do depends on what kind of person he is. You should know that since you've been going out with him a few times and probably knows him at school. Does he appreciate brutal honesty? Does he prefer "hints" as opposed to direct confrontation? Can he handle the stress (and probably the shame) of getting a rejection? Is he abusive? If you can answer these questions, then you should be able to decide what you have to do.





If the guy is abusive, you obviously want to reject him in public (quietly of course) or over the phone, where you have enough safety. If he appreciates honestly, you should say it in his face (politely of course) that you don't think the relationship should go on. If he can't take brutal honesty, you probably should keep rejecting his dating invitation without actually telling him that you're not interested in him anymore.





There is one more thing that you should consider... how fast do you want to end the relationship with him? If you don't want this to drag on any longer, you just have to be brutally honest (in a nice way) without trying to do what is "best" for him.
Reply:Meet him tonight, have a drink with him and tell him how you really feel. He will appreciate you being honest and doing it to his face. Treat people the way you would like to be treated and you wont go far wrong.





It's also a good learning experience - facing up to something that's hard to do and dealing with confrontation, - it will make you stronger!
Reply:Yes, go and use it as your chance to speak to him and explain the situation. Just say that you don't wantt o take things further with him but you will speak to him when you see one another at school etc. You can slowly let that slip as well once things settle a bit but for now just let him down gently.