Do you date others after marriage?

I am doing it and ok to do it. but want to get some feedback from others, (especially from the female members here). Are you ok to date after marriage and ok to date a person (men/women) who is married?





I found this Q irrelevant in US as no one ask any personal question when you meet in a bar or club etc. But in India, the introduction to anyone new are mostly personal and i am hesitant to propose to many about this.





Please don't give me answers like 'what if your spouse does this' like that. I respect the 'private space' of my spouse/kids and every one.





It is not about 'date' which has committments for future relationship, it is purely 'casual dates' with like minded partners.

Do you date others after marriage?
u being married ...... u hav your spouse to date... .y do u need some one else for dating purpose. In a consservative country like india, once you start dating.... commitment will be a necessity and if you cannot commit, things can get messy so be prepared to face all that mess and problems if dating w/o commitment is on your mind. In a country like india to find a person with htat kind of clarity is very difficult. Tread carefully as this could be very complicated, problematic and messy.
Reply:First i'd be enjoying my freedom going out and having fun with the girls but i wouldn't date a married man.
Reply:i think ur mom have dating with many of them after marriage that's what this question arised for urself and now u r confused to think of ur that who is ur real father......oh! don't be sad i will give u a good idea go and ask ur mom with how many people she have dated get their address and find ur father with ur facecut.i think the girl who marry u will get aids..i am so sad of that girl
Reply:Although I don't think you should date someone if you are already married. I think it is OK to have friendships with other people, Male or female if you are married provided your partner ( wife/ husband) and you are honest about your relationships with other people.





Your marriage may not have been your choice, but the best thing to do is be honest with your partner about who your seeing and why. Just don't start an interment relationship with the other people your seeing. Adultery is not acceptable in any society.
Reply:though im not married bt will say no
Reply:WHY?
Reply:yes u can do date after the marriage until your wife dont know it
Reply:You want to go back to stone age. Marriage is for civilised people. Even in most of the western countries Adultery is a crime. If husband and wife start dating others with or with out the knowledge of their life partners, then there will not be difference between humans and beasts.
Reply:Thats so messed up for you to ask that question ask your spouse!
Reply:If i get a chance why not........
Reply:wtf is wrong with you sicko? go date your wife!
Reply:Asking a question like you've posed on a site that's dominated by USA folks will get you a lot of judgmental answers based on what the custom and practice is in the USA and other Western countries.





Most of the people who are married would not be okay with their spouse dating another person as it is an indication that you are no longer regarding them as the number one person in the relationship. But you are in a different country that may have different attitudes.





What you seem to be talking about is what we would call a platonic relationship, in which sexual attraction plays no part whatsoever, the relationship is instead based entirely on an intellectual level. So the question is whether it is okay to meet and talk to a person other than your wife or husband for the sole purpose of conversation or some other kind of mutual interest with the certain knowledge that this kind of relationship will not go beyond that boundary.





Still, it seems important to first discuss and gain approval from your spouse and abide by their decision.





If you have a relationship of mutual trust and have been honest in your intentions to abide by the fundamental principle that the engagement is solely for conversation and will not lead to further attraction, then there should be no problem.





The key is trust. In my working career, also my wife's career, we both had occasion to meet and have dinner with others to discuss business. But I do have to admit that this can also lead to temptations that were not originally contemplated so there is alway that risk which can creep up on you.





Generally speaking, it is perhaps better to have these kinds of meetings during the day in a very public place to lessen the chance of going beyond the originally intended purpose.
Reply:Never before and after marriage as I never required that.
Reply:do it if your conscious allow
Reply:If you still want to 'date' then what is the point in getting married at all
Reply:so, your asking if it's ok to cheat? in any circumstances if there are no strings attatched? no. there is no way that it is ever ok to cheat. even if it is only casual, it's cheating. it cheapens your marriage, and your life. it makes you into nothing more than a player who happens tohave one supposedly commited relationship, commited means commited. you are commited to your spouse, meaning no one but them. if you can't handle that, then marriage isn't for you.
Reply:when you are married in the church, it is a big NO. you promised each one infront of many people and in the eyes of the Loard to be faithful till death do you part. So stand with it. Even though you have no plans after the date, the male already have it. he will do the next move until the date will be repeated. Only to find out ur already cheating your partner. you want to quit but its already done. the scar is there. So never, never attempt to have a date especially to the opposite sex. after marriage